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Extra Marital Life

Bhutan, the land of thunder dragon is being blessed by Guru Padma Sambhawa in 746 A.D and Zhabdrung Rinpoche in 17th century. Guru travelled to most parts of the country like Paro, Trongsa and Bumthang. He has spread Buddhism in these places. Later Zhabdrung Ngawang Namgyel came from Tibet and ruled Bhutan as the Spiritual Leader. He too has spread Buddhism in the country. They were then followed by so many great saints and masters who practiced and preached Buddhism in the country. The people in the country believed and had so much faith in Buddhism. They believe in Life after Death. So there were always the fears to do any sinful acts having belief that they might acquire sins whereby they themselves will have to bear the consequences after they die.

Our forefathers, those ancient generations were so much faithful in all the acts they did. There was no concept of any marital life. They believed that they may accumulate sins if they did such things. When I say these things, I may not be the perfect judge, yet I want to share what I feel. There were no many cases where wives and husbands got divorced. There were no many cases where children were suffered. I don’t know if the things went unturned.

On contrary the present generation is changed. No one thinks about their own behaviors. There is no much respect and belief to our religion, culture and customs. If something suits them for time being, that is final and binding. The world has reached where people enjoy extra marital life.

Once he is away from his wife and children, he forgets everything. He goes for study tour, further studies and other works. He is young enough to enjoy not less than his teenage enjoyment. He runs after young girls, sponsors them and even gets into the relation with her. He pretends to be unmarried and does all unexpected things to the girl. He even goes to the extent in impregnating the girl. In doing so, first thing is he spoils the life of the girl. Aims and dreams in her life are all shattered. No wonder she is no better than life in the hell.

Secondly, some men leave their wives and children and goes for the new wife. In this case, previous wife and children of that man suffer so much. Wife is very upset and she is unable to care her children. Now this is the time when children get their bitter share in their lives. They don’t get enough love and care from their parents. This is when children get involved in all mischievous behaviors. They take alcohol, drugs and even in gang fights.

When I say all about men, viewers reading this blog might think that men may be only the ones doing all those unexpected behaviors, women do it too. When they are also away from their husband and children they too think of enjoyment. They get indulged in all non sense acts which I actually don’t like to mention here. Some women go to the extent even in getting impregnated by other man. Same things as I mentioned in case of man happen.

Boys and girls, Men and women! Those of you, who are involved in such actions, please think wisely upon the topic and have the best second thought on it. Think about your future consequences. Country of ours is Buddhist country which has strong belief in respect, care, love and sympathy. So I would like to request to think once over it and behave.

Why Prostitution?

First of all, before I start to share my views on the aforementioned title, I would like to say that this is what I vividly feel, it is not written to discourage or blame anyone.

The world has been changed since its creation. It is a tragedy for any youngsters to enter into the hell of prostitution. They become our nation’s lost future nation builders. No need of blaming either Adam or Eve. Similarly neither boys nor girls would be eligible to blame in this case. Whatsoever, I feel the world has submerged all the shame and respect that it had and emerged with all sorts of unexpected behaviors. Some argue: “The world itself is prostitution, it depends on whether legal or illegal”. But as far as my knowledge is concerned the legal marriage can not be called as prostitution. The reason is that it is not done for rendering the sexual services for the payment. On the other hand there are substantial number of teenagers involved in all sorts of problems.

I remember once in newspapers highlighted the banning of drayangs (dancing and singing entertainment during nights). However there seem to be no any outcome. But what i feel is these sorts of people may be present here but not only in these places. It exists in all corners of towns, especially in the streets of Thimphu. I see hundreds of boys and girls searching for jobs which is absolutely difficult to get. Some or maximum of them with no any other options land up in such miserable situations. I feel sad, disheartened, sorry for all of them, yet i can do nothing for them.

When I say all above i have got no piece of right to blame anyone. Neither the ones involved in commercial sex or the ones who are availing the services. Yet, I feel the Buddhist country like ours who believes strongly in Gross National Happiness needs to think wisely and needs to take so many measures. If the trend continues to take its way, I think it will overtake all our culture and customs which we are proud of in whole world.

Firstly those who are involved in all sorts of actions must rethink upon theirs actions. They must know its out comings for now and in future. And for those availing the services must think wisely before spoiling the other who have their own aims and objectives in life. Think about your own sisters, brothers, sons and daughters if they too get involve in such actions.

Next thing is the government has to work very tirelessly and seriously with it.But when I say this, I don’t mean to say that present government is not working upon it. But more or less people of Bhutan are concerned, I see no change in this sorts of problem. I know this will really hamper in the nation’s mission towards pursuing Gross National Happiness. Every individual Member of Parliament must consult their respective constituency. Ministries, Departments, Agencies, NGOs must solve this problem as soon as possible. Youths are future leaders of Bhutan. So, let us all join our mind and hands to care them, protect them and guide them.

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